Don't Take It From Us...

Online Dating IconWhen it comes to advice about online dating scams, you could listen to We have advice to help you protect yourself and your money.

But why not go straight to the source, too? Many online dating sites now offer really practical advice on how to avoid relationship scams. Here’s a sample:

“DON’T ever send money to someone you meet online, especially by wire transfer. Scammers often insist that people wire money, especially overseas, because it’s nearly impossible to reverse the transaction or trace the money.”

“If someone asks you for money, for whatever reason, do not do so and please, report the situation to us via the “Report a Concern” button. If somebody is asking you, they may be asking others, and your report can help protect other members.”
-JDate/Spark Networks

“Watch out for someone who immediately requests to talk or chat on an outside email or messaging service. Watch out for someone who reports a sudden personal crisis and pressures you to provide financial assistance.”

These dating sites don’t want you to be scammed, and neither does They want you to meet a real someone, not a con artist hiding behind a bogus profile. Following the advice on these dating sites is a great place to start!


I have been scammed byb a man named Karl, claims he was in Benin for business and professed his love right away, asked for money a couple of weeks into it, then he started asking for money, and it was one situation after another, today he emailed me to tell me that he had been robbed, stabbed and had beeen in the hospital, I knew what was to come next he would have asked for money. Typical textbook scammer. I started wising up and looking at online dating scams. Met him on, they claims they are not responsible but did give me my money back. we mainly cahtted thru yahoo messenger, he has a account listed as Karl, very handsome man, born in Germany, educated in England, claims mother lived in Lawrenceville, NJ also claimed have been divorced for 4 years and has a 9 year old daughter. He claimed not to have a facebook page but I found one he just started the week before one using and it was his picture. I emailed all of his friends this morning on their and now it has disappeared. He knows I am on to him and I am going to do what I can to get my money back and have this jerk dealt with. If you have suggestions on what to do please let me know and I also have pictures. I have notifed yahoo, and will send to every dating website if I have to. Please reply if you want to see pictures or have suggestions.

Yes, this certainly sounds like a "textbook scammer." The scam has many of the elements we often see: leaving the dating site to chat somewhere else, professing love right away, asking for money, and then asking for more money. To post your comment, I removed some of the personal details (like email addresses and full names), but if you'd like to file an official complaint you can do so at

would like to see the pics as i am afraid i am being scammed too and maybe by the same guy,

Hi, Linda,

If you think you might be dealing with a scam artist, I wouldn't put much faith in a photo. These scammers often post phony photos. They also use bogus names and personal bios. The best way to spot a scammer is by how he or she acts. If an online love interest asks you for money, it's almost certainly a scam.

I believe i am being scammed by a man named henry, supposedly from ny, in benin working as an independant contractor, building a 4 star hotel in porto novo cotonou, he is supposedly born in germany, parents died in car crash when he was 12, an only child. He had to go live with his uncle in churchill pennsylvania. He has had trouble getting his loan money to get transferref to benin, ran out of money, got sick was in hospital, while waiting for loan money hotel bill was not paid, needed money for hotel, they supposedly downgraded his room, took all his nelongings until he could give them money. When the loan money came then needrd money to process loan in benin, then still couldnt get money until he received government clearance, thay of course needed more money, then when that eas ginally set, got his loanoney from bank, then there was an accident at the site a worker got injured, he had to pay the workers hospital bills, pay for broken equopment, for an rngineer to assess damage to building, then pay to fix building, ran out of money again, supposedly site was closed down by city due to the owner of the structure not having correct zoning, in the meantime he was going to come back to ststed and get finances in order and then go back when work could continue. He needed money to switch his tickey, then at airport the plane had technical problems, could not fly out, yhey put the people in hotel and were not able to fly them out for two days, then i get a call from some doctor saying there was a bad accident from the hotel to airport, 4 people in critical condition needed permission to treat henry, i told them to do what they had to to save him, he was bleeding profusely and was unconcious, then the doctor called back and guess what, he said bleeding undsr control, now needed money to proceed with treatment, 1200.00. I called embassy, they assured me it was a scam. I was told to send money to a victor yewenu, the doctor kept calling saying if no money sent henry would die. He is treating henry now supposedly has fracture lelvis and fractured leg, stitches in hand. I told henry embassy said it is all a scam, he insists he is really from ny and will be bavk here when he is better and then i will see, i said that is the only way i will be sure. Whenever he says dr needs more money and i say well i dont have money, he somehow gets sicker and neefs more treatment. Please beware, i spoke with henry for 3 months through all thos craziness, so i really thought he was real at first.

Hi, Rose,

This person is definitely a scam artist. Thanks for sharing your story. Hopefully, this will help others recognize the signs of a scam.

If you'd like to file a formal complaint with the FTC, you can do so at

I meet somebody, and they dont ask me for money, they said somebody going to send me money and he want to i keep the money, i send the money later to him. i know this strange, i want to know if you know something about this. you hear about this before

Hi, Diana,

Yes, in another common version of this scam, the scam artist sends you money and asks you to put it in your account and then wire part or all of the money back. Usually, the money comes as a check -- a fake check. The check looks real enough to fool the bank teller, so you're able to deposit it and the money may even show up in your account -- for a while. A fake check can take weeks to discover, but once the bank realizes it's a fake, you will owe the bank any money you withdrew.

I almost had the same situation, I met someone thru one online dating, specifically match .com, his name was Richard, fortunately, I didn't send him the money, when he asked for money I was alert and I stop to have any kind of communication with him. That was terrible....

Was his name Richard Nelson?

I just met this guy on and he was adorable. He said he worked on an oil rig in Mexico and lived in Manhattan. I'm from New York and he couldn't tell me exactly where he lived which is odd. His voice didn't match his face I thought. He said he would get a chopper out at 6am on December 5th and would come stay with me for the holidays. You mean a hotel right? He told me he works one month on and one month off and that he was a marine engineer. I asked him his back round and he said he was English and found in a church at the age of two. He was then brought over to America and has loved in Manhattan from the age of seven. Second red flag. New Yorkers love food and always talk about them. Third red flag. He said he worked nights at would call or text me at 5am. He sounded so tired too...he proclaimed his love for me and said he would relocate for the right woman. Asked me about my new church and that he would go with me. Good luck getting a New Yorker to move to Texas really?!?!?! How many red flags ??!! I got a text from him asking me if I would do an errand for him and I said ok what do you need? He said that if he could wire money to my bank account so he can send his Dad money for a plane ticket. He was only able to send out 950 dollars at a time from where he was at in the Gulf. Then he said his dad was old and frail and needed money for basic care. I said ok I'll send it wherever you like no problem. So I then asked him you don't know and you are going to send 2500 dollars to me and trust me and he said yes. he asked if I had a credit card it would be better to transfer the money to my credit card then I was like huh?!?!?! I was never going to do it because I know I was being hustled and hardly that desperate. He said I really need you to do this for me sweetie...well sorry I said.. Open up an account for your father and transfer funds that way. After going back and forth he then asked me to send him a few hundred dollars!!!!!omg I just about died. I said I'm s single girl and cannot afford it and he then said well how much can you afford love!!!! I was thinking is this guy for real?!?!?! I said no like 4 times...One more sweetie or my love and I was going to puke. He finally stopped calling and texting. I don't know how experienced he was because he didn't sound like a grown up. I think he was out in the middle of nowhere and maybe decided to do it this way so he can't be traced. I never thought to look him up again on Anyway here is what he sent me below in an email.

Account Holders Full Name :
City :
State :
Zip :
Cell Phone :
Type Of Acct :
Bank Routing Number :
Checking Account Number :
Mother Maiden Name:
Ssn :
Bank Address :
Bank Toll Free number
Bank Name :
Bank Website :
Account Holders Full Name :
Online access

Fill those out and send back to me.

You're an idiot!

I am trying to fix some things that were messed up but it get"s to be ridiculous at times and unnecessary when you cannot even trust the government people and technology.

That certainly sounds like a terrible ordeal that you went through, be more careful and always keep your guard up.

I met a 35 year old woman from Kansas City Missouri,or also could have been from Kansas City Kansas.We talked for approx two or three weeks when she wanted to come to my state to visit,she asked me for money to help her get here.I knew right then she was a scammer.please beware of ANYBODY ASKING FOR MONEY AS THEY ARE NO DOUBT A SCAMMER.

Alfonso Alonso, Dallas,Texas. Italian. My first time on match, so I wasnt very smart. This guy is typical, now that I have researched. A widow. Lost his wife to brain cancer. A civil engineer building a condo. Started emailing me in private. We talked on my cell phone. Immediate love and fate. Had to leave for Malaysia for the big business trip. We emailed for 30 days. On the 30th day, he asked me for 12,000.00 to cover a bad business deal, so he could get back home to me. I cut him off, but he tried several times to get me to wire him the money. Got hysterical and cried when I told him no. Be careful ladies. This guy is charming.

This sounds like the same guy that my friend has been talking with. Antonio-Italian-Houston Tx. He started talking with her on JDate and all of sudden told her he was getting off match site because he wanted to dedicate himself to her. His wife died 2 years ago from cancer and he has a daughter-Maria, that lives in London. He had to leave for business trip to Malaysia but would be home in about a month. He even sent her flowers for Christmas. Well he's' supposed to be home in a week but the plant he was working in had a small fire/explosion and now he needs parts that he can only get from the US. The parts are now 3 IPads that cost $880 each. He said his daughter can get him 1 but needed my friend to send the other two. Then he said something about needing 36K. WHAT??? Red flags have been going off since she started talking to this guy. His picture is this really fit man,handsome, grey hair with dark mustache. Looks like a hot Sam Elliott.

Someone I know just got taken by this same guy, we have photos. Would like to compare them to see if he is using same photos. please respond

I would love to see the pictures to verify whether it is the same man or not.

This sounds like the same guy talking to me. He left for ghana to mind for gold. Asked me for 10k at he's down to $600. He must think im an idiot. He has a better chance of seeing a leprechaun than me sending him $. I have pics too.

Alfonso Alonso, italian, dallas, Tx. Didnt get money from me but sure did try. Was definitely a scammer. Said he was a civil engineer, doing a condo in Malaysia. we were emailing and talking on the cell every day. sent me pics to show my family. all of a sudden he needed 12,000.00 to complete the job, so he could hurry and get home to me. Met him on Match, but he got me off there really quick. I had just joined. So he taught me alot about what to do and not to do. was a widow, parents died, no kids. Very charming. Watch out ladies, he is good and has good grammer also. wish I could show you pics, but its probably not him anyways.

Met Alfonso Alonso, Italian, from Dallas, TX, on at the end of October 2012. Was going to Malaysia to build a condo in Selangor. We were emailing, IMs, and talking twice a day for months until he was ready to come home and was in a car accident in March 2013. Broken leg, concussion, broken ribs, etc. Asked for airfare money to get home to me but supposedly was stopped by immigration at the airport for non payment of his workers and work visa overstay. Nice looking man and great build. Would love to see the pictures you have to compare to the ones I have. Yes he told me too that he was a widow, that his wife passed away from brain cancer in 2006, parents passed away recently, no children, and that he was an only child.

I met a man who claimed to be in the military goes by the name David P. He first asked me to send him a care package to some diplomat that would deliver it to him...The shipping cost twice as much as the stuff I sent..Later , he tried to say he was sending me something of value and had some guy calling me for a few days straight at 3am I have since shut my phone and changed the number..I am sure it would have just been a matter of time that this person delivering the package was going to need money..I didn't let it get to that point. I have pictures too. I have tried to contact the person in the pictures as in one of them the last name is on the uniform and I was able to find him on FB.. But he has not responded .I would be very upset if I come to find out this was a true military person trying to scam me...Still deciding if I should take it a step further and report the situation.

I met a woman through an online dating site, or at least claimed to be a woman. She went by the name Emily Hastings.Ive read other stories about online scams, and her story was textbook. She said she was living in the DC area,but had a trade show for Herbalife to do in London. Two days after the show, claimed to have been mugged, lost all credit cards etc. It just went on and on.The woman in the pictures looks hispanic, and claimed to have been born in Ecuador. She has a very anglo name, which supprised me, but then when I sent a message in Spanish, she did know what language it was, and actually thought spanish looked like french. It was all very bizzarre. Ive got probably a dozen pictures from her, as well as a Check from Herbalife with Emily Hastings name on it, which I believe is photoshopped. She claims to be stuck in London with all these bills to pay and needs me to send her money. She is persistant, but I keep telling her I know what shes up to. Im trying to figure out with the help of Herbalife who the woman in the pictures is. She is either part of the scam, or aquainted with the scammer, since the pictures appear to be current. Halloween party pictures, Christmas Pictures, etc...
Beware if you here the name Emily Hastings, this is a scam

I have been on dating sites for about 3 months. About 2 weeks ago a guy claiming to be Thomas Hannett, Captain in the military in Afghanistan contacted me by IM on Match. He asked right away to get on Yahoo IM. I created an account that didn't have my name so I would protect myself and signed in under that account. We chatted and did some emailing to my anonymous account.

After a week he was asking for my cell phone number so we could get to know one another better. I refused. We kept in contact and he said he was getting out of the army after a 38 year career in a couple of months. Also his birthday was April 10th. I asked him for his address (I was thinking I would send him a card). He immediately asked me if I was thinking I would send him a care package. I said that I might (think cookies). He gave me a list of 8 things he "needed" one of the items being a digital camera!

Thats when I knew it was a scam. I told him that I wasn't going to buy him a camera but he kept pressing me more about getting him one so he "could send me more pictures". I got offline and the next morning sent him an email telling him not to contact me again. At least that is one thing he got right, no contact since.

But what bothers me is that he is going to do this to someone else and it is probably pointless to even report it. I am so glad I am impeccably careful about my personal information and not giving out phone numbers. Now I don't know if its worth it to try and date online. I am totally suspicious of everyone!

So after reading some of the stories here I believe I`m IN the middle of a "scammer"

His name is Marc, i "met" him on match just as he was "signing off" because he didnt have time because of his traveling for "work". He saw that I emailed and "winked" at him. He emailed me back saying could i text him because he was deactivating his account! So I did! We had texted for a bit then he "traveled" for work 2 Afganistan and has been there ever since, at least 3 weeks! Siad he lived in a city 45 minutes from me, thats what the profile had said 2! He "is" a widower and has 2 children or so "i think" saw pictures, or did i????? Don`t know what 2 believe after these stories!!!!

So here`s the "scam part:after a bit he asked for"underware" 2 be sent to him... On a military base, private contractor working in Afganistan and left "unexpectidly fast" when WON a contract 4work! I said no! after a bit asked 4 money for his kids at his grandma`s...he didnt have time 2 "provide" 4them b4 he left....we had been talking 4a few weeks now, and YES he has claimed LOVE 4 me....:( He has at this point emailed me and WHAT a PEOT he is...or is he???? So i "wired" a little bit, I have kids i "felt" 4 him! few more weeks pass, work has had a SNAG and hes not coming back when he thought.... needs money can i send some! NO I TELL HIM STOP ASKING!!! He still claims 2love me even when i cant send money! I tell him I`M DONE he says sorry and he doesn`t want that! OF COURSE HE DOESN`T (specially if this IS a scam)!! Now work is coming 2 an end and he should b "home" soon! What do I believe?????!!!!texting is a bit less than it was but hasnt stopped....IF it stops before he`s "suppose" 2 come "home" i KNOW I`ve been scammed, BUT i haven`t sent any more and DON`T plan on it!!!! Just want this story out there!!!!!Marc Jordan! from Belarus...maybe it`s real???? am i an exception?

Hi, I'm sorry to say that your story has all the signs of a scam. He will almost certainly contact you again to ask for money or a favor. Don't take the bait! You can file a complaint at

I just have one question,why does our government feel it has the right to spy on it citizens. And then use scare tatics to persuade us they are doing it for our protection? If were are not allowed information for national security reasons then my government is not allowed to listen into my private conversions or read my emails.This government is the one who is always getting us into situations we have no business doing. Stop being hypocrites we both this government and the people who stay silent about it are the real terrorists. We have nothing to fear but ourselves.

I was contacted by Ralph Herman, said he was an engineer, we talked on I'm, he eailed claimed to have lost wife in hurricane,, after 2 weeks he asked e fr 2,000 s so he can get home bcuz his job can't su him , I feel foolish watch out for him he aso says he has daughter n son in Germany gong to university

I was done the same but i sent no money after two weeks he asked for money so he can come home, claimed tobe a widow and name was ralph herman, researched found no such name, tried to blow up pictures but the name tage on thr person started with a J not an R, he claimed to be living in Cyprus and was coming home soon, well he texted me again, i did not answer and will not ehas not sent another email, glad i stopped wished i hadnt even out for him claims hehas two children a daughter named tracy andhe was from ge rmany

Been emailing. Guy in Sydney then he and his 7 the yr old went to Nigeria Africa yep scammed big time but I do think its a. More than one his contacts to I think he also is. Using. His. Daughter. As a soft touch to get to me , I trusted him and what got me sus picious. Was one day he was on face book the next day not i do know he is from darlinghurst s sydney he is on the voting form but he may not live there was the second one ,I lost I don't know what I don't care I don't want justice I want others warned yes a mr John alonso tope is a scammer and yes I blocked him so he can't email me ,and even changed me mobile no and phone no , but kicking my self DONT help me any ,he's smooth as ,a car accident on way to airport passport limit date nearly out dumb one any person makes sure before they fly out the passport has at least four or five years not two or three he has been there nearly two years ,his daughter Eva will be 9 in December .my stepdaughter showed me ways of birth death and marriages how tto change them but in feb or march she passed away August 31 and her funeral was September the 11 he thought it was funny me I ,I id and angry and I miss her and he can go and find someone else I. Not an ATM I told him then I got an email he wanted 8000 by XMAS and I said. No then I got called names not nice ones from a guy who said he loved me if that's love he saved me as no one tells me that when IVE not yet. Met them he saved me by showi g his true colours a lot. Ore heatache I don't need so please beware of this guy ,okay and also don't go for his looks as he is a charmer and knows it to ..... Thanks

I think I am being scammd by a man calling himself Ryan Meegan from Brookly New York. He claime he ia
in Benin on a construction contract with his daugher He has had one bad happening after another.
He continues toask me for help. He has of course proclaimed his undying love for me and wants to marry me as soon as he returns to the USA. Has anyone had any dealings with this man?

This definitely has all the signs of an online dating scam. It's very likely that Ryan Meegan is not his real name.

Well thanks to the internet, and being able to read all these, I know now I am being scammed by a woman, who supposedly left her children in Bekasi, Indonesia after her husbad died from a car crash. She said she could not get visas for her children so she had to go herself and try to bring them later. We have been talking through email for three weeks, and all then she had to go back to Indonesia to settle her husbands estate and was granted visas to bring her two children back with her. Then she told me she had bought some Iphone cards for her children to play games but had left them here and would I pick up one for them at Wallmart and email here the codes. I was leary, but I did send her a $50 card code. I guess its true a fool and his money are soon parted. Now she is supposedly in Benin to sell her husbands factory, but needs me to be a witness ( no idea what that means) and does not have money to go back to Bekasi.... Wow I cannot believe I have been scammed. I even found her on FB, and some of the pictures she sent me came from there. So much for the online dating for me.. From now on its in person or no thanks.

please help me immediately i dont have time to think but i font know to stop them

hi need help to anyone reading this right now please help me i dont know what to do i worry so much.this is the story.

I met a guy on Filipino friend finder .com he send messages to me then he ask my ym so i gave it,he said his working on a shift as head engine engr on cosco shipping,he said he will come in philippines before middle of this month but did not happen then he said again before end of this month not happen again and now his saying before end next month but there is a problem he said their ship encounter pirates so they change route then their at turkey port saying to change route to be at japan then fly here,but after saying there is pirate he ask me to help him receive his gold watch and money so i gave my whole name and address but after he send message that company need my payments before package delivery i said i dont have money but he beg so i help i send 4000 phil money converted to usd the payment needed was 500usd he said he talk to them to pay the balance if the package is with me like he said but after they got the money thay said they cant deliver without being fully paid AND I SAID I DONT HAVE MONEY TO PAY ANYMORE THEN HE SAID HE PAY THE 300USD AND THE REMAINING I WILL PAY BECAUSE HE CANT SEND MONEY ON THE SHIP THERE IS NO BANK,THEN LASTNIGHT THE DELIVERY REPLY TO ME CONFIRMING THEY RECEIVE THE 300USD AND I NEED TO PAY ONLY THE 110USD ,I SAID CANCEL THE DELIVERY ON MY NAME I DONT HAVE 110USD BUT THEY SAY THEY HAVE MY DETAILS AND THEY WILL REPORT ME TO INTERPOL IF I WILL NOT SEND 110,AFTER I SEND THAT THE TIME THEY WILL DELIVER THE PACKAGE.I KNOW ITS A SCAM I ALSO FEEL HE IS THE ONE DOING ITHE ALWAYS ASK ME WHEN TO PAY THE BALANCE BUT I AM AFRAID AND DON KNOW WHAT TO DO IF THEY WILL REALLY REPORT ME TO POLICE ,PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO AND REPLY YO THEM FOR THEM TO STOP ME,THEY KNOW MY NAME MY PICTURE MY HOME IT MAKES ME WORRY.THANK YOU

I hope you reported him omg !!!

Any one familiar with these names? Dave buckner...larry thorne... Michael Mancini... All from two asked for money.. The third was having the same pattern. Never sent them anything... Larry got angry and called me selfish...a liar.. And told me he was very hurt that i wouldnt help him... I need to report this.

Anyone familar with the name Benjamin Cavender? contacted me on e.harmony. Looking back, it was a classic scam. I sent money, stupid I know. I realized it when the picture he was using came up on a scammers website. anyway, I told him to go away. that was in May. Today I get an email from him claiming to want to pay me back. What do I do?

Same story as many here. Met on the European version of, which is not free. Immediately asked to chat offline (oh, he's only trying it for free for 3 days, please, email...) Immediate love, fate, he'll marry me, will love me forever and ever, will take care of my children, pay for college, life will be great, blah...blah... The name was Porter Welsh, the pictures he used turned out to be of the alpine climber Conrad Anker. There are a lot of them online, nice looking man, CLint Eastwood look but younger. Widower, wife died 3 years ago of cervical cancer, is from South Africa but lives in Kansas City. Children live with his mother in South Africa. Wonderful story of how we'll bring our lives together, sexy voice. Called me while I traveled abroad myself, sent me flowers. Although I should have noticed. He didn't always appear when promised to appear. Always a little later. And I did notice in the back of my mind that the story of financial difficulties was beginning to evolve. Supposedly he traded in edible oil and made this awesome deal but needed to finance it. Bank required that he used mortgage as collateral. Then he is short of 50K (8-o) and his "mother from SA" sends it but the bank takes it and puts it into escrow because he signed the agreement without checking. Then there's a lot more. His child gets hemophelia, he gets sick himself - never asks for money once but the elaborate story grows more and more complicated. Finally time gets close to when we're supposed to meet in person and "start our lives together". And I hear more and more often how he's a little depressed and confused about the fact that he's short of 50K (I do grow suspicious but not enough to stop communication altogether). I wonder if he'll ask me for money and decide I won't send him any if he does. (Although there are moments when I keep thinking of how I could potentially help him if he is real... very stupid!) So, before this happens I find out who Conrad Anker is and see the pics and the story of the real man behind the face. Very difficult to accept that someone just wanted to feed off of you while you were thinking undying love.

I'm on dating site for one month and already contacted by 2 scammers.
1: don't let you dumbfounded by "sweetly", "I love you", and so on.
2: don't start a long distance relation that cannot be kept under control
3: don't give any private informations, like the real email address, phone number, your home address
4: ask her/him to meet each other in a public place and on day light,
5: ask questions about her/his life which implies an answer which has to contain a number. After a while ask the same question and see if in answer is the same number
6: I'm suggesting to have the possibility to post here their photos to protect other people, too


ITS so true i am on ZOOSK IN SA , i have being asked for money from Matthew Peeters, John Stevens , both need help and airtime

Anyone had any dealings with a Amy Alfredo? Meet her on a gay dating app called Brenda. Started talking initally on there for a couple of days and then moved over to whats app. Stupid I know! Found out she was an Italian living in Concorde New Hampshire America. A day or so later she told me she was actually in Benin on a scholorship studying to become a midwife and helping out in a third world country. Her father had died when she was 12 and her and her mum moved to America for a better life, no siblings. She said she only had 1 more month left to study in Benin and would be returning home to open up her own private maternity practice. As the days went on we were talking more and more. She would say all the right things absolute text book. Spoke to her on the phone a few times but not for very long as the signal would keep dropping out. Couldn't web cam chat as she dropped her phone and it broke. Said she couldnt get a new iphone in Benin and had to wait till she was back in the states. She mentioned religion a lot, i'm not religious at all but have no issues with people who are. She would call me "dear" a lot which I thought was odd but was told by friends shes just probably a bit old fashioned! Then about 2 weeks into talking she said she wanted to come to the uk for a holiday, possibly to move here and set up her maternity practice here. She talked about buying a house here and asked if I wanted to live with her, to which I responded I like you but I think we need to have a first date first!! She got a little funny at that but I took no notice as it can be a very common trait with Lesbians that they want to live with each other straight away!! We continued talking and most of the time it was always about trust and her mother who she thought the world of. Then one day she built up all these messages about something she wanted and needed to tell me, after me telling her many times that I trusted her just to get the information out of her she said her when her dad died he left gold in his inheritance to her and her mum. It was in Benin and thats the main reason she choose to study there so she could bring the gold back. I didn't believe it but at the same time she had been so good at fooling me I did wonder to myself what if she is telling the truth! I asked her many questions of how she is going to get the gold out of Benin and into the uk and all her answers were correct from what I was reading on the internet. I decided to leave it there and just see what happens. The next morning it was her birthday and she had been hoping her mum would send her a new laptop to complete her final projects and for a web cam but she didn't. She asked me if I had a spare laptop to which my responce was no!! Next she had a problem, she wouldn't tell me as she didn't want to scare me away and she was falling in love with me. I eventually persuaded her to tell me and her mum needed to have an emergency operation in Italy. She couldn't loose her mum she means the world to me blah blah blah. Would I be able to sent out £1000 to her as thats all she needed to finish paying for the operation. I flat out refused, I don't have that sort of money just lying around and even if I did no way would I be that stupid to send money to someone in a foreign country and not even meet face to face. She swore on her dads grave that I would have the money back as soon as the gold was put into her name the next week. she then asked me to go to the bank and get a loan out for her. At this point every penny dropped intpo place. I had many suspecions but in the back of my mind I was hoping she was genuine and she certainly played a very very very good story. She has tried contacting me a few times since asking why I havent been in contact with her but i've cut her off dead. I'm so happy I didn't send any money as feelings do take over the brain usually. I have reported her to the dating app, don't know if she has been removed yet.

OMG I have been chatting with her too! I was on findhrr to find like-minded friends and we struck up a conversation. Exactly like you said the story word for word..also saying she had been single for 4 years because her finance died of breast cancer weeks to their weeding. When we spoke on the phone and realised her accent was very strange for someone who had lived in the US for almost twenty years and also she said she had lived in the US for 25 years and moved when she was twelve, so she couldnt do the math cuz that wouldnt make her 37 not 31 like she said. When I clarified I was just looking for friendship she cut me off..probably because she knew I'd be of no use to her. Wow it all makes sense cuz I could learn better chinese than what she called English in 25 years for sure

Does the name Kevin Hinojosa sound familiar to anyone.? devilish good looks, First sergeant in the army, wife died, one daughter Sarah who is at Parsons?

That name doesn't sound familiar but the story does. Mine was a first sergeant with a daughter about to graduate from Colorado. Wife died who bit. cut and paste a message to google to see if they copied it from somewhere.

Does the name Kevin Hinojosa sound familiar to anyone.? devilish good looks, First sergeant in the army, wife died, one daughter Sarah who is at Parsons?

I met someone named Kevin Hinojosa on OKCupid. Claimed to be former military, but wife had died and had a daughter Sarah at Parsons. Laid it on hot and heavy, but noticeable inconsistencies, and he would keep forgetting stuff I told him, like he was probably juggling me with other women. The bells went off, and I found similar stories about him on other sites. I confronted him and haven't heard a word since.

I met a Filipina online she is maganda (beautiful) I met her in a chat room and we now been speaking via webcam on Skype and also on the teephone. I have sent her money on many occasions I reackon over £1500 so far and It's like an addiction I can't stop!! she tells me she loves me and wants to be with me. She is currently in college, (will not tell me which one). I do love her and I am just so scared she is not real I am just holding out in hope that one day e will be together. Comments anyone?

On met a Williams Jose from Rhode Island asking for Money for a simulator control panel with money to be sent to an Annette Lourdes Mentken of Miami Florida who will release the part for 3000 instead of 5000 shipment fee...emotionally staged me romantically and tried to emotionally blackmail me claims to be hospitalized from stress of promised funds I was not going to send..soon after deleted his account but I have careful ladies..never send money

I believe I am being scammed by a man claiming to be from PA and is in Benin because he does construction contracts. He hasn't asked me for money but is really laying it on thick. His name he says is Robert Esslinger. He has gone overboard with his affection via texts and emails in just three days of talking. I met him on match.

I just realized I was talking to a scammer. For some reason I copy and pasted a message "he" sent me into google and sure enough there it was word for word. I wanted to write back the rest of the script to show I knew they were a scammer, but I read to just stop communicating with them. The thing that stinks is I had just given him my phone number. I am wondering what I should do. Is it enough to block the number? I hate that it is out there! Freaking jerks! I was hesitate about doing the online dating thing....guess I was right to be.

Beware of a south african going by the name of Scott Cameron. Says he lives in South Afica but has an apartment in Tempe, Arizona. Had a profile on tagged but took it down when we started dating online. Likes to use Yahoo messenger, will pretend to have a 4 year old daughter and then come up with a story that they were both robbed a gun point and they were taken to a private hospital and they won't release them because he has to pay out of pocket but they lost everything and needs money. Fortunately I am nurse and knew better, he didn't get a dime! Uses the email address of

anyone came into contact with Lovely Mei C Bocado from Quezon City in Philippines?

I have been completely taken in by her. College fees, medical bills, broken computer, new laptop etc the cost was well in excess of £2000.

I fell for her claims that she loves me, wants to marry me, wants to be with me etc.

The college fees were inflated ten-fold. I was stupid to take her word as truth. I recently found out talking to somebody else from same area who knew about this and from photos had been able to locate the college (as she would not tell me which one). I then discovered that the college she was in was no where in the league in terms of price that I was told by her.

I sent money to her via Western Union many times. I fell in love with the way she spoke to me, her beautiful looks and her "kindness" it was all lies.

Please be aware, I'm sure she has done this before, as during one telephone conversation she slipped up that she used to date a guy from US. Please post this as a warning to others and for me to have any responses. I am so down and torn apart by this whole episode. I simply want to fade away today's date is 23/12/14!! what a time to find out you're a fool.

NOT because of the money, but because I believed she loved me as I love her.

Thank you please respond.

In Dec 2014 Alias Antonio Peppe,Italian , 61 decent, Phila area parents died in car accident 16 years ago only one son,age 28 studing to be a doctor, worked as a general contractor and worked from home traveled overseas to both Paris and South Africia wanted me to wire him money to South Africia to cover rental car and hotel.. I didn't would love to catch this guy,,paid to check out his name and no Antonio Pepe in PA only Miami area,,I was suspicious as his story had many holes in it. Not reimbursed by

Does anyone had something to do with a Scott Duncan? I met him on zoosk and after 4 days he ask me to send my iphone at first as a joke. (his was broken).
Than he got serious and ask me to bye him one or send him money for one. I said no. But that was the moment I started to research the internet and I found a lot of things about a scam.
Next morning I told him that I think he is a scam and he said I insulted him, bla bla.
I'm trying now to get rid of him, but he still text me and tell me he is in love.

Has anyone been contacted by someone on Match that went by the User name Adamkind14 AKA Adam Simon?
This person claimed to be a widower, with a son of 26 years, architect, and of Swedish descent. Very eloquent on his messages.
Anyhow, being an architect that he said he is he had to do a presentation in NY and then afterwards left for Poland. While in Poland, fell and had to have surgery. Did not directly ask for money but I volunteered and only sent a few hundreds to an account here in the US. That should've been my first clue. Anyhow, after so many months in Poland, he said his subcontractors would not allow him to leave until the money that he was going to receive from the company he contracted with clear the bank. His son supposedly was going to get most of the money from his father in law and without asking directly was hoping I would come up with the rest. I said yes to see how far this would go. It so happened that without reason what so ever, I went online and typed scammers and his picture showed up. However, the people on this site were saying that the person on the picture is not the real scammer, and the person on the picture has victim of identity theft. There is more to this story but when he sensed I was not going to send the money he got very upset and I started to ask him to do Skype or send me a recent picture but to no avail. I was wondering if someone has encountered this person.

Met a man names Thomas Martinez on Match and 6 days after chatting with him he said he had been robbed and needed money to pay his hotel bill in West Africa. I told him not just NO but HE double hockey sticks NO!!!! AND these sites should make it impossible for anyone to copy or print pictures if it is not your account. Someone copied my pictures and setup a fake account. I tried to see if he was scammet but the online sites want you to pay for the information - ummmm no way. Why isnt there a site where we can post scammers and their pictures????

I met a guy on a dating site his name he said is Julius Martins. Profile said he lived in my city. Wife died in a car accident, parents are both dead he is an only child. Has a 7 year old son.He said he is a civil engineer - had to leave for Turkey but would return soon. We texted and emailed and ten he asked me to chat on yahoo messenger instead of texting. Had a problem with his bank and couldn't get his money BUT could deposit it into my account and I can wire it to him. He hated to ask this of me but fears it is his only way to get him and his son home. Seriously!

I met a guy on Badoo. His name is Jeremy Abimelik Adams. He said he was Armenian living in Manchester, UK. He supposedly went on business in Malaysia. He is now wanting me to send $2,000 Western Union. Says he is in trouble. Has to pay for lawyer, hotel fees, bank, etc. He sounds serious. Like he really is in trouble over there. Claiming they are corrupt. Scared for his life. He sounds in desperate need. What do you think.

Don't send money to someone you meet online. Don't send a wire transfer. Scammers often ask people to wire money, especially overseas, because once you send the money, it's gone. You can't trace it and you can't get it back.

Scammers often claims to be from one country, and say they're traveling or working overseas. They often tell stories of a traumatic event or a business deal gone sour. Scammers also like to say they’re out of the country for business or military service.

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